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Deborah thought her abuse was normal - but a late autism diagnosis changed everything

By Megan Oliver, with photography by Maren Preuss
Posted on ABC online 09/01/23 – 5:10am (Updated 9/01/23 – 11:33am)

All I ever learned was that it was my fault. I had some dark fault inside me where I was always getting it wrong. – Deborah Hunter

Deborah Hunter always knew she was different from those around her — she communicated differently and struggled socially, but didn’t know why.

“I took it to be some kind of intrinsic naivety. I never seemed to get it right,” she said.

“Even when I tried to be a ‘good girl’ and behave as appropriate or expected, I was forever getting things wrong.”

The emotional and physical abuse started in Deborah’s family home, but she didn’t realise it was abuse.

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